To a father growing old,
nothing is dearer than a daughter.
~ Euripides
Today was Dad & Daughter day. I made a date with
my father months ago and announced that I would take off work and have a secret
adventure. I shared with him this week that we would be celebrating his
favorite president's 258th birthday by attending the grave-site
presidential wreath-laying ceremony by the US Military.
Each year on a former president’s
birthday anniversary, the President of the United States sends a wreath of red,
white and blue flowers to be placed on the tomb of the former president. Wreaths have been used at funerals since Ancient
Greece. The symbolism is basically the circle of eternal life. The Victorians
had their own language of flowers; the presidential wreath focuses more on colors which makes me smile since irises are used for the *blue*... but they're stunning so I'm not complaining. In my world, irises remind me of my father. In my family, it was always Dad who found some abandoned flower in the woods or in a neglected lot, dug it up and replanted it to help it thrive again.
Dad
has never been to my favorite cemetery, Hollywood Cemetery, and when he said he was going to take pictures of President
Monroe's gravestone, I discovered that my father has no idea what it even
looked like.
James Monroe was one of
the Founding Fathers and the 5th
United States President, the 4th President from Virginia. Go Home State,
err, Commonwealth; I digress. President Monroe was considered one of the most
popular presidents, especially by Virginians; yet, my father is a Northerner
and is still a big fan.
“Monroe was so honest that if you turned his soul inside out there would not be a spot on it.” ~Thomas Jefferson
After Monroe’s wife
died, he went into a deep period of grief and left Virginia for New York to
live with his daughter. When he passed, Monroe’s body was interred in New York
City in 1831. In 1858, a movement began in Virginia to bring home the remains
of her native sons. Monroe’s body was placed in state in New York City Hall on
July 3. After a bit of journey south, the re-interment took place July fifth.
It was a grand ceremony a great public occasion. Monroe was buried with full
military honors. It was probably one of Richmond’s largest spectacles before the
Civil War.
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This monument in
Hollywood Cemetery is one of my favorites. Alfred Lybrock was commissioned to
design a suitable monument to cover Monroe’s remains. In 1859, the Commonwealth
of Virginia installed Lybrock‘s design, “a granite sarcophagus surrounded by a
flamboyant Gothic Revival cast iron canopy” (National Parks Services). Doesn’t
that just roll off your tongue ;) Monroe’s tomb firmly established Hollywood as
one of the foremost places of burial in Virginia.
When we arrived today
for the wreath laying ceremony, I had completely forgotten that the *birdcage*
tomb has been taken
apart in order to restore it (sadly to its original lighter color) in time to
coincide the bicentennial of his election as president.
The birdcageless tomb
did not spoil the day. My dad had a great time. We walked around the cemetery,
peeped in mausoleums to see Tiffany stained glass windows, and discussed the
history of some of the renowned figures.
I do not typically steal a day for myself especially
on a workday but my father and I have been discussing the “one day we will…”
for quite some time. When Monroe’s birthday fell on a non-teaching day, I made
the plans firm. We would not wait until 2017, 2018, 2019…or God forbid that day
in the future when I would have muttered, “I wish Dad and I had…” I try to take
trips; I try to be present in these moments because I know that they will not always happen. And, when I’m at my
childhood home, I always take pictures of Dad's flowers, especially the irises.